No matter where you are in your life or how old and matured you are, every heartbreak hurts as if it’s the first one. Well, am sure it’s a little different for some who get their hearts stomped on every day. However, for most of us, it’s a pain that we have to carry and a wound that we have to heal.
Some go about their lives carrying the weight of the heavy heart while others take the brave step of moving on. While there’s no proven antidote or cure for these aching hearts, there are some things that can make it feel a little better.
1. Talk About It!
While you may feel like shutting yourself out completely and maintaining no contact with anyone, the very opposite of it will definitely make you feel better. Take your time, have a good cry but reach out as soon as you can. It could be a friend or a relative – doesn’t matter. Talking about it will take matters off your chest and through your own discourses, you will be able to see why it failed and may be that will bring some closure.
2. Hang Out With Friends
Now that your calendar is free, reach out to people you have always canceled on. Grab every opportunity of socializing and go for it. Free time would mean an idle mind and that’s what you have to avoid.
3. Do Something Dramatic
It could be a new hairstyle or it could be moving to a new city – there is always something that we put off because our partner may not be fully on board. May be to get that tattoo you have always wanted. Any change will distract you for a while and it will make you feel better about yourself.
4. Get Rid Of Old Memories
We are not saying burn and flush (although that’s not a bad idea) but do keep things that remind you of them out of your sight. May be to ask a friend to hold on to these things till you are ready to deal with them. You know it’s over and you miss them but there’s no need for a constant reminder. By now, you would have their number memorized but trust us, it’s always best to not see them pop up on your WhatsApp. Don’t follow them on social media, it will only make you feel worse. After the initial phase of drunk calling, crying and begging (which is a part of the process), you should delete all traces of them. At least you know, you tried but now it’s time to let that go.
5. Reach Out
Different people deal with heartbreaks differently and it’s okay if yours’ seems more painful than the next guy. It’s okay if you feel like crying but always remember that there is always someone to talk to. Never belittle what you feel and accept all your feelings. Only then can you truly fathom what’s going on inside of you and you will be able to tackle it better. Reach out to a therapist if needed and always remember there’s help at hand and life is too short to be spent in blues.
6.Take Up A Hobby
Pain is best channelized through art and exercise and the world is your oyster when you wish to choose an art form! Take up painting, music, writing, gym – whatever you like – and dedicate yourself to it one hundred percent. It keeps you busy, teaches you a new skill and also eases the pain.